As someone who could conceivably be considered a "social conservative" in the context of LGBT culture, I'm pretty much an outcast myself (though a lesbian, not a gay male), so I sympathize very much with your story.

I'm pro-marriage, pro-monogamy, pro-family, pro-children, anti-porn, anti-bdsm, and pretty respectful both of spiritual traditions as well as secular philosophers who argue that it's important to civilize/refine the passions and engage in what might be termed the "therapy of desire". I'm an assimilationist queer and a moral conservative, and proud of it. To me there's no contradiction there. Unfortunately, it's pretty isolating to take these positions, as they leave me rejected by both queer culture and mainstream heterosexual culture. C'est la vie.

Maybe we should just start our own LGBT subculture that seeks to encourage a moral and disciplined life and rejects the vapid hedonism and materialism of mainstream queer culture, while at the same time rejecting the sexism, homophobia and transphobia of mainstream heterosexual culture as well.